Your vulnerablility and willingness to share your experiences is a gift to all of us. If you can look in the mirror and honestly say, "I did the best I could.",that has to be enough. If you did the best you could, let it go and move on
I tell myself every day, " I loved her, I wasn't perfect, I made a lot of mistakes, BUT I was learning on the job and I know I did the very best I could at the time." And I will believe this someday., I know. You speak to a LOT of us, Janice. That video was adorable. Amazing puppetry.
On our way to church last Sunday. I told Gloria I don’t like supervising. And she said I don’t like being supervised. And I said well I can understand that my supervisory techniques are well trained by somebody who had to supervise contractors over the years and I’m sure that I can be a little bit gruff. No, probably a whole lot gruff. You mentioned some where I think that your husband was in a locked facility. My former occupation was building skilled nursing care facilities and I built a locked facility in Redding California a few years back.
I always try to preface my remarks by saying “let’s go do this“ or sometimes forming it as a question would you like to go for a ride or would you like to paint for a while? These more gentle approaches seem to work better. thanks for sharing , I think that it’s good to open up and allow others to see that they are not alone and their struggles.
Hi Dale, Thank you for your comments and your point about the gentle approach. I found it worked to give Dan the choice as well - he did not want to be told what to do. Yes, he was in a locked memory care facility in the San Francisco Bay area, for about five months before he died.
Loved the Inner coach cartoon - powerful!
Your vulnerablility and willingness to share your experiences is a gift to all of us. If you can look in the mirror and honestly say, "I did the best I could.",that has to be enough. If you did the best you could, let it go and move on
Hi, Thank you.
Ahhhh yes: Shoulding on yourself. I know this one well. 👍👍
Hi Michael, It has taken me a long time to get past the "should haves" and and "could haves."
I tell myself every day, " I loved her, I wasn't perfect, I made a lot of mistakes, BUT I was learning on the job and I know I did the very best I could at the time." And I will believe this someday., I know. You speak to a LOT of us, Janice. That video was adorable. Amazing puppetry.
On our way to church last Sunday. I told Gloria I don’t like supervising. And she said I don’t like being supervised. And I said well I can understand that my supervisory techniques are well trained by somebody who had to supervise contractors over the years and I’m sure that I can be a little bit gruff. No, probably a whole lot gruff. You mentioned some where I think that your husband was in a locked facility. My former occupation was building skilled nursing care facilities and I built a locked facility in Redding California a few years back.
I always try to preface my remarks by saying “let’s go do this“ or sometimes forming it as a question would you like to go for a ride or would you like to paint for a while? These more gentle approaches seem to work better. thanks for sharing , I think that it’s good to open up and allow others to see that they are not alone and their struggles.
Hi Dale, Thank you for your comments and your point about the gentle approach. I found it worked to give Dan the choice as well - he did not want to be told what to do. Yes, he was in a locked memory care facility in the San Francisco Bay area, for about five months before he died.
I refer to mine as a drill sergeant! And he’s mean.
Hi Alice, Can we fire the drill sergeants and adopt guardian angels instead?