Great info. My parents don’t divulge any info whatsoever. We have asked if they have a living will, etc and they don’t want to discuss it. I’ve learned what not to do with my own kids.
Hi, my parents never talked about their finances either. I was going through my Mom's things after she died when I had my first clue. However, I have made sure that my children know my finances and my wishes.
@JANICEWALTON This article is a good summary of key documents that we all need to have in place. It's something many of us want to put off until "later" - be we shouldn't. I am glad I didn't but too often hear about so many who did postpone/or not even think about doing it, and their adult children are left to make important decisions without their parents' input.
Being a nurse in a hospital and watching families go through such agony as their elderly parents declined set me on this path much earlier than most. I started discussing this with my adult children in my 50’s. I also saw catastrophic injuries occur to younger people, rendering them incapable of caring for themselves. Having those legal documents is so very important.
My husband and I have both digital copies and paper copies of our End of Life plans. It carefully outlines anything our adult kids would need to manage our care before, during and after this stage. We also have health care proxies, power of attorneys and living wills drawn up by our attorney. I saw too many families go through devastating scenarios so being prepared was very important to me.
Such great advice, as always, Janice. You sound like you have got it covered. I am currently solidifying my long-term care plans. At my advanced age I expect if I have two years to live I will consider myself lucky (!) but still, I do not want my boy to have to pay for my care, and I don't want to lose my little house to pay for care either. I am exploring options.
Being prepared to take care of ourselves and assist our parents if necessary, as we and they age, would make aging well easier.
This is very important info, thanks Janice.
Great info. My parents don’t divulge any info whatsoever. We have asked if they have a living will, etc and they don’t want to discuss it. I’ve learned what not to do with my own kids.
Hi, my parents never talked about their finances either. I was going through my Mom's things after she died when I had my first clue. However, I have made sure that my children know my finances and my wishes.
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The positive in our parents’ mistakes. We don’t have to repeat them.
@JANICEWALTON This article is a good summary of key documents that we all need to have in place. It's something many of us want to put off until "later" - be we shouldn't. I am glad I didn't but too often hear about so many who did postpone/or not even think about doing it, and their adult children are left to make important decisions without their parents' input.
Essential information and reminders. Aging has evolved with the times, so we must adapt our approach and planning accordingly.
So very true. We must adapt our approach and plan accordingly.
Being a nurse in a hospital and watching families go through such agony as their elderly parents declined set me on this path much earlier than most. I started discussing this with my adult children in my 50’s. I also saw catastrophic injuries occur to younger people, rendering them incapable of caring for themselves. Having those legal documents is so very important.
Hi Jan, Your point is well taken. It could be children, young and old, who are unable to care for themselves, and parents have to take care of them.
@JANRN Wise of you to provide key information to your adult children. We never know when they might need it.
My husband and I have both digital copies and paper copies of our End of Life plans. It carefully outlines anything our adult kids would need to manage our care before, during and after this stage. We also have health care proxies, power of attorneys and living wills drawn up by our attorney. I saw too many families go through devastating scenarios so being prepared was very important to me.
Such great advice, as always, Janice. You sound like you have got it covered. I am currently solidifying my long-term care plans. At my advanced age I expect if I have two years to live I will consider myself lucky (!) but still, I do not want my boy to have to pay for my care, and I don't want to lose my little house to pay for care either. I am exploring options.
Hi Sharron, I know exactly what you mean about wanting to be independent for as long and as much as possible.