The Changing Relationship We Have With Ourselves

Reflecting on Identity, Loss, and Adaptation

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In the last two articles, we’ve touched on topics that seem incredibly important - particularly if we want to enjoy overall well-being and happiness in our older years. I’m referring to the relationship we have with ourselves and letting go of the person we were to make room for the person we can and want to be now.

As a child, I was taught that others knew best about everything, from what clothes I should wear to what decisions I should make. That belief influenced me for years in many ways. So I’d ask their opinion, accede to their wishes, and ignore my intuition more often than not.

However, I’m finding that they - professionals, advertisers, and well-meaning family and friends - may not know what’s best for me after all. They don’t know my body, my values, and my intentions as I do.

I’ve also been surprised by the sadness I’m feeling about activities, long-held habits, and special relationships that are no longer there. So, I’m experimenting with new ways of being based on what is true for me now.

One question we might want to ask ourselves to begin with is: How has my relationship with myself changed as I’ve grown older?

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