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I have a purpose and many things to be grateful for today. I have enjoyable moments, and at the same time, my sense of security - my feeling of being safe and protected is missing.

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Seems you've been reading my mind again Janice! If we lived closer geographically I expect I'd be popping over for a coffee and time to ruminate about our "stories". Today I have found myself with the "Why" occupying too much space. Thank you for reminding me that I'm not unique AND that I'm not alone AND that I have so much to be grateful for.

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Hi Marilyn, The loss of security was a complete surprise. Dan had been there for so long in my life. When my parents died - he was there, when my brother died he was there. Every problem that arose - we solved it together. Now, it's up to me - it's a new world.

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Although not the same number of years as you and Dan had, I find this business of being alone has forced me to look more closely at "now what do I do". I continue to fall back to just dealing with each day the best I know how and trusting that "Perfectly on Time" is a good way for me to "watch" the world.

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Janice, I'm still part of a (longtime) couple but I often wonder... how will I cope if Sam is no longer at my side?? Thank you so much for sharing this and for so lightly touching on the pain you must be feeling. I can read that between your graceful words. Just a guess, but the fact that you're writing about this probably means you are on the road to figuring things out... to be continued with [B]OLD WOMEN. xx

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Hi Debbie, So true - most of my writing is about me trying to figure out how to go on by myself - after losing the mainstay in my life.

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This is such a thought provoking read. The security issue is huge. I felt it in this piece. How to prepare is another story. I commend your taking one step at a time to walk through the uncertainty. You are doing a wonderful job from what I've read in your sharing. Thank you for writing through your process.

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You are so lucky to have had the relationship you had. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Hi Nancy, Yes I was lucky - he was my protector for many years.

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Cherish his memory always.

Many of us seek, but never find that lasting love.

I am so sorry for your loss.

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I feel for you Janice. Grieving, rediscovering yourself, and finding that inner sense of security is a journey that requires immense courage. Sending you warmth and support. ❤️

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Hi Kevin, It's been quite the journey, that's for sure.

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You are strong and courageous. Thank be open for what’s to come. To be complete within. To go day by day increasing our understanding of Truths. I admire your resilience 🙏

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Thank you Paolo.

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Stay on the positive side. We always have a choice. It’s the story we tell ourselves. Stay mindful 🙏

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Words of wisdom.

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