Thank you Sharon. Most people have no idea the effort it takes to be a caregiver. They may know how to watch out for someone’s safety. A caregiver is one who truly cares. That is the hardest part of this job. Most people are elderly, you give them your heart so you can build trust. After a period of decline, most die. This is the first time I have ever had to be the one to say “I can’t “. I tried to talk myself into it. I didn’t speak up in time and fell. There was not another choice. I had to pull the pin on the on a very sad situation.
Amazing as it may seem, paid caregivers need this information as well as family caregivers. I am grateful for this information.
In January I needed to explain to the family of the lady I was caring for I was not able to keep their mom safe. They then needed to find a place for her to go. I was part of all the details in moving her. I went with the family the day she went. The guilt of my not able to remain sane and care for her, haunts me daily. For those who truly care for the patient it is not just family that needs reminding there is only so much you can do. That seems to be your message here.
Thank you for dealing with work that really takes every ounce of your being. When you have no more to give you must make your health the number 1 choice. It has taken 3 months to begin to heal.
This upcoming series is going to be excellent. Folks need the actual nuts & bolts of what to DO. I am especially interested in how we change our beliefs. This is my personal wheelhouse, I am passionate about this kind of thing. But I know how tricky it is when we are exhausted, stressed and at our wits end...making positive mental change seems overwhelming. I look forward to your suggestions Janice.
I am not a tech wizard by a long shot. I do have a letter that I would like to forward to about the life of a paid caregiver.I just don’t know how to get it to you. Do you have a business email address that I could forward it to?
Thank you. I have written a piece long ago about life as a paid caregiver. If you would ever be interested, I could email it to you I think. It was written while I was sitting with a dying patient.
I love "Take care of myself first". Resonates a lot with me.
I have lately written about it, making sure "You've got your own oxygen mask first", before anything else. While remembering that you might lose it on the way, and need to find ways to put it back on (yoga, rest, therapy, meditation).
I went through the same thing with my dad. He refused to move to a board & care facility when he really needed it. When we had to go to around-the-clock caregiving, finances got squeezed, and so we had to make the difficult decision to move him, but by then he was a shell of his former self. It’s so emotionally draining and hard.
Thank you Sharon. Most people have no idea the effort it takes to be a caregiver. They may know how to watch out for someone’s safety. A caregiver is one who truly cares. That is the hardest part of this job. Most people are elderly, you give them your heart so you can build trust. After a period of decline, most die. This is the first time I have ever had to be the one to say “I can’t “. I tried to talk myself into it. I didn’t speak up in time and fell. There was not another choice. I had to pull the pin on the on a very sad situation.
I appreciate your kind words.
This is a great plan, Janice. I look forward to it!
Amazing as it may seem, paid caregivers need this information as well as family caregivers. I am grateful for this information.
In January I needed to explain to the family of the lady I was caring for I was not able to keep their mom safe. They then needed to find a place for her to go. I was part of all the details in moving her. I went with the family the day she went. The guilt of my not able to remain sane and care for her, haunts me daily. For those who truly care for the patient it is not just family that needs reminding there is only so much you can do. That seems to be your message here.
Thank you for dealing with work that really takes every ounce of your being. When you have no more to give you must make your health the number 1 choice. It has taken 3 months to begin to heal.
This upcoming series is going to be excellent. Folks need the actual nuts & bolts of what to DO. I am especially interested in how we change our beliefs. This is my personal wheelhouse, I am passionate about this kind of thing. But I know how tricky it is when we are exhausted, stressed and at our wits end...making positive mental change seems overwhelming. I look forward to your suggestions Janice.
Janice,
I am not a tech wizard by a long shot. I do have a letter that I would like to forward to about the life of a paid caregiver.I just don’t know how to get it to you. Do you have a business email address that I could forward it to?
Susan Kuhl
rasandbarn@aol.com
Thank you. I have written a piece long ago about life as a paid caregiver. If you would ever be interested, I could email it to you I think. It was written while I was sitting with a dying patient.
I love "Take care of myself first". Resonates a lot with me.
I have lately written about it, making sure "You've got your own oxygen mask first", before anything else. While remembering that you might lose it on the way, and need to find ways to put it back on (yoga, rest, therapy, meditation).
https://livmkk.substack.com/p/youve-got-the-oxygen-mask
Thanks for sharing!
I went through the same thing with my dad. He refused to move to a board & care facility when he really needed it. When we had to go to around-the-clock caregiving, finances got squeezed, and so we had to make the difficult decision to move him, but by then he was a shell of his former self. It’s so emotionally draining and hard.