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Janice Walton's avatar

In part, caregiving was stressful because I wasn’t mentally, physically, or emotionally prepared to take care of the person who was my life partner for so many years - this was unfamiliar territory and territory I did not want to visit.

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Catoctin Monty49's avatar

Advocate for your Beloveds. As a former paralegal in Chicago, our office used Medical Directives as part of Advance Planning for medical and property concerns relating to aging, disease, accidents et al. There are 8 scenarios that walk you through “if I am in this situation, then these are the treatments I want.” It’s specific and provides peace of mind that one planned ahead instead of waiting for the unimaginables to happen. I have used it with my own Estate planning and those of my kids. Comfort care?? Life support with varying clarifiers?? If brain dead after 2-3 opinions, then organ and tissue donor?? Typically one fills it out when still in good health. You may create a scenario as well and designate your healthcare agent as well an alternate. I highly recommend it as an addendum to estate planning. It varies by state, Illinois and Ohio use it. I stapled it to my POA Health and Property that goes with any admission to a facility. Food for thought as we age. My spouse has Dementia, so we are already putting plans in place for difficulties yet not manifested. Become vociferous about care wanted/needed versus what a professional orders.

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