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They say change is a constant. I have tried to do things differently than my parents, tried to end the dysfunction they engaged in. I hope my children do better than I did.

Thank you so very much for the shout out! It is greatly appreciated!

Blessed Be!

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Such a clear analysis of the changing philosophies on child rearing, and made especially keen by drawing upon your own concrete examples. I always assume that children of the latest generation receive very little guidance, with no set boundaries. They are left flailing about not knowing what is expected of them. I mean how do little ones know if their behavior is correct if parents give them no rules to go by? It makes no sense to me. Children need benchmarks and clear expectations to keep them on a safe, productive path. It was so nice to hear from YOUR examples that it is not always the case and I shouldn't generalize. Thank you. And thank you , too, for mentioning my tale of Bartle Clunes. I appreciate that vote of confidence so much. Sharron at 🍁Leaves

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I totally agree with you, children need guidelines and boundaries, they will keep pushing until they find them. Maybe the guidelines have to be flexible and negotiable as well.

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I sure know that I did . . .make many mistakes that is.

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There's much to learn from each previous generation's child-rearing. But, we also have to adapt to new challenges (i.e. technology). Too much attention (helicopter parenting) is just as bad as too little attention. I tried to employ a happy medium approach offering unconditional love with boundaries. I told my kids early on that boundaries are to protect everyone and grownups have them, too. I'm thankful that my kids turned out great and are wonderful parents to their kids!

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So true . . Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.

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This is so insightful! Very impressive that you’ve thought a lot about your childhood and the ways parenting have evolved and changed. Glad to hear the subsequent generations have been able to cultivate happy family lives. I hope this for my (future) children too!

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Hopefully future generations will learn from past mistakes.

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