I really appreciated your message about the uniqueness of everyone’s grieving process!
After my 9-year-old daughter died in the passenger seat beside me when we were hit by a lumber truck, I valued Stephen Levine’s words to me: “some people will tell you you’re grieving too much; others will tell you you’re not grieving enough. Do it your way!”
I agree with you, Janice. Grief cannot be painted in only black and white. You say "Grief is unique - no one else had the same relationship you and that person had." Until my mother died, I didn't have any idea what grief was or how I would / should act. I was not in any way prepared for her loss, though I took daily care of her for 13 years in my home -- the grief was killing. I am only now, after seven years, able to think of our long history together and smile instead of cry. I appreciate your understanding these things Janice.
When Mom, Dad and my brother died, I missed them - especially my brother, but it wasn't until Dan died that I really experienced loss and the grief that comes with it.
Thank you for having this Substack to help people on their journey as well as it helps you I’m sure to get it outside of yourself and for bravely sharing such a personal journey. Kind Regards
An important thing to remember is not to let others define your grieving process for you - but make it your own, whatever that looks like.
I really appreciated your message about the uniqueness of everyone’s grieving process!
After my 9-year-old daughter died in the passenger seat beside me when we were hit by a lumber truck, I valued Stephen Levine’s words to me: “some people will tell you you’re grieving too much; others will tell you you’re not grieving enough. Do it your way!”
Hi Lasita, I am so sorry about your daughter - there really are no words to express my sadness. I had forgotten about Stephen Levine's words.
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Heartfelt condolences, Lasita. Absolutely! No one has the right to tell you how to grieve. hugs.
I agree with you, Janice. Grief cannot be painted in only black and white. You say "Grief is unique - no one else had the same relationship you and that person had." Until my mother died, I didn't have any idea what grief was or how I would / should act. I was not in any way prepared for her loss, though I took daily care of her for 13 years in my home -- the grief was killing. I am only now, after seven years, able to think of our long history together and smile instead of cry. I appreciate your understanding these things Janice.
When Mom, Dad and my brother died, I missed them - especially my brother, but it wasn't until Dan died that I really experienced loss and the grief that comes with it.
Thank you for having this Substack to help people on their journey as well as it helps you I’m sure to get it outside of yourself and for bravely sharing such a personal journey. Kind Regards
Thank you Kathy. It is as you say, a way of healing for me and maybe helping others go through the tough times as well.