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This speaks to me, Janice. Especially the part of changing habits. That's a tough one for me. I spend way too much time sitting at home when there's no reason I couldn't get in the car and go places.

Just wanted you to know you're lighting that spark for me. I'll keep hanging around! ❤️

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I am so glad to hear that. I was not prepared for all the life habits and beliefs that had to occur. My definition of who I was had to be updated.

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Good read, thank you for the share. Experiences on caregiving need sharing more often. I wish you had been around while I was caring for my mother. It was an honor and I wouldn't change a thing except I might have taken care of myself better.

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That is what we all seem to miss, the taking care of ourselves.

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Sometimes, I lost my temper after saying the same thing or answering the same question 15 or 20 times.... “I just told you that,” .... “how many times do I have to tell you?” .... caused frustration for both of us." This breaks my heart, as I, myself, never was able to deal with this satisfactorily. I just stopped talking. I regret it to this day. So, thank you, Janice for reaching out to people before it is too late for them to do something. You are an angel for caring so much. PS What an AMAZING coincidence that you and I, on exactly the same day, published stories titled "Old Dog, New Tricks"

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I did smile at that. Amazing!

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Wonderful recount of things, Janice. I can empathize with you on this as we watched my in-laws, who were married for 69 years, go through a similar progression of things. It's been a year and a half since my father-in-law passed and my mother-in-law is still "adjusting" if that were even possible after all that time being together. Thankfully my wife and I and 2 of her siblings live close by to be with her as much as possible. Enjoy your posts very much.

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Hi Cork, My salvation has been my children ‘s involvement. I would not have made it otherwise. I’m so pleased you are enjoying the posts.

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Everyone knows how hard chronic illness is for the patient. Few realize how hard it is for the caregiver. Your husband was very lucky and I understand how hard it was for you after the great life you had together.

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Thank you. It is a whole new life. That’s what I found and the purpose of the articles. So little is written about the caregiver’s pain and anguish.

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That is why your writing is so valuable. Everyone needs to understand the reality of caregiver pain and anguish. Thank you for sharing.

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Continued 🙏🙏🙏!!!

As Graham and Lynette says, “ be gentle with yourself.”

Nicely written. Blessings to you

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Mary, thank you.

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