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Bye-Bye Inner Critic!

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Bye-Bye Inner Critic!

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Janice Walton
Jul 12, 2023
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While I was caregiving, and after Dan died, my inner critic was exceptionally vocal with “I should have thoughts."

At Home

When he was home, I was self-critical and guilt-ridden with my impatience and anger. I wasn’t mad at him but frustrated with behavior that he had little control over.

At The Facility

When he was at the facility, I criticized myself for not doing more or having more say in his care - even though I tried my hardest.

Dan didn’t get the care I wanted for him - but maybe I was expecting too much, and there were extenuating circumstances - like the pandemic.

Now

I’ve learned new things about managing as a single woman. Still, the critic’s voice loomed large. If you read the article, I Apologize, you know this had been an ongoing issue for me.

However, I’ve decided to trade in that harsh, unforgiving inner critic with an internal coach. Let Emmet and Gulliver remind you of the difference between the two.

As you can see in the video, the inner coach supports my efforts, motivates me to keep trying even though I’m not entirely successful, and helps me figure out what stands in the way of being the person I want to be. She is my attitude’s trainer.

I’d have listened to my inner coach sooner when she said, “You were doing the best you could at the time.”

Guideline 10 discusses Becoming Proactive. If you missed any of the guidelines here is the link to the first one.

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Lee Buchanan
Writes The Waiting Room Cafe
Jul 12Liked by Janice Walton

Loved the Inner coach cartoon - powerful!

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William H Bestermann Jr MD
Writes Slow Aging and Delay Chronic Di…
Jul 12

Your vulnerablility and willingness to share your experiences is a gift to all of us. If you can look in the mirror and honestly say, "I did the best I could.",that has to be enough. If you did the best you could, let it go and move on

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