Bye-Bye Inner Critic!
Hello Inner Coach
While I was caregiving, and after Dan died, my inner critic was exceptionally vocal with “I should have thoughts."
When he was home, I was self-critical and guilt-ridden with my impatience and anger. I wasn’t mad at him but frustrated with behavior that he had little control over.
At The Facility
When he was at the facility, I criticized myself for not doing more or having more say in his care - even though I tried my hardest.
Dan didn’t get the care I wanted for him - but maybe I was expecting too much, and there were extenuating circumstances - like the pandemic.
I’ve learned new things about managing as a single woman. Still, the critic’s voice loomed large. If you read the article, I Apologize, you know this had been an ongoing issue for me.
However, I’ve decided to trade in that harsh, unforgiving inner critic with an internal coach. Let Emmet and Gulliver remind you of the difference between the two.
As you can see in the video, the inner coach supports my efforts, motivates me to keep trying even though I’m not entirely successful, and helps me figure out what stands in the way of being the person I want to be. She is my attitude’s trainer.
I’d have listened to my inner coach sooner when she said, “You were doing the best you could at the time.”
Guideline 10 discusses Becoming Proactive. If you missed any of the guidelines here is the link to the first one.
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