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A very timely retrospect, Janice, as the year comes to an end. And so helpful to all of us. I remember the feeling of overwhelming exhaustion and desperation in caring for my mother. I don't know how you managed it for so many years. I was on the verge of a total mental and physical breakdown after only 9 months of it. Thank all the gods for Hospice. They gave me such helpful advice and support. I wish you the happiest of new years, Janice, and an alleviation of some of your pain and sadness. Sharron

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Isn’t it easy to look back. I’m in the middle of caregiving in the same situation for my father. I think it’s harder to see the signs when it is someone we love and easy to look back and see the mistakes. You did the best you could with the information you had at the time. Dementia/Alzheimers what a horrible disease. Thank you for the article!

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Michelle I couldn't agree with you more. It is a horrible disease.

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My dad had vascular dementia, so I understand. You provide valuable information for anyone dealing with this. There's so much we don't know and have to learn as we go. This article provides the guidelines necessary to help people better navigate an incredibly difficult journey. Thank you.

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Thank you, Janice. This is such a helpful article. My step-dad had Alzheimers. It was only after I read my mom’s journal did I realize what she went through. I hope I never have to experience this, but if I do I will reread your article for strength. {{Hugs}}. Xoxo

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Hi Jan, I am sorry that your Mom had to go through that. It was the biggest challenge of my life.

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Thank you for opening your heart and sharing with your readers.

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I just wrote a tribute to my mother. I was her caregiver for the last three years of her life. She had a stroke and became homebound when she could no longer navigate the stairs. Mother's mind stayed well for her age, she died at the age of 93. I could have been a little kinder but like you I did the best I could. Mom had to go to a nursing home at the height of the pandemic and I couldn't see her. She died three months after leaving home. I also have mixed feelings about her healthcare. My mother was an old school registered nurse and she had faith in her Doctors, even when her insurance wouldn't give her Doctor time enough to know her. Thanks for sharing your story and for the advice.

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