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Janice Walton's avatar

It seems that the older we get, the more aware we must be of making choices that empower us rather than victimize us.

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Noel Minneci's avatar

I have a motto that I adopted after our son died. "Life is random. Everything happens for no reason." I don't take things personally any more, it is a gift of aging. I will be 80 next week and looking forward to continuing on a good path and taking life as it comes. I'm thinking there may be difficulties down the path but there will also be blessings. I'm going to keep doing my best and living in gratitude.

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Sharron Bassano's avatar

You always write about so many of my aging concerns -- and I have many. I am always appreciative of your insights. Fortunately, the topic of this post does not apply to me! Whew! I grew up in a family plagued by alcoholism, but I have never felt like a victim. I always knew I was strong and capable. I had to be. But I have two friends who always react to the world in the role of a victim, so I know how debilitating it can be. Thank you, my friend

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Catherine Ann's avatar

I’ve done my share of this in my life(77), thus - this is a valuable article with excellent suggestions for awareness and control.

Thanks Janice. 😘

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Debra Douglas's avatar

I’m a massive pre-worrier.

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Saved by Grace's avatar

My story is similar too and at 68, I'm finally learning to let go of self criticism and accept myself exactly as I am. It's a tough process (changing a lifetime's responses) but I'm doing the 'work' and it's never too late....Karen

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