Good one, Janice! It's why I chose "From Both Sides Now" as those of us who are older have a perspective on life experiences that include then and now, looking at life from both sides. Putting them together is both harmony and conflict and how we resolve the latter depends on both internal and external resources - both sides now. Joni Mitchell, who wrote and sang that song is headlining a concert next month at the Hollywood Bowl in Los Angeles on October 19. She is 81.
"I think of myself as independent, but that independence requires assistance."......."they care for me while allowing me to do as much as possible before stepping in." We have to try to quiet the little voices of pride in our heads and accept that there are things we need help with now. I have to always remind myself that my boy WANTS to be needed; it is not an imposition. I just keep a list. He drops by, takes the list and gets busy. He will change the ceiling light bulb, trim the top of the vine I can't reach, replace a couple of washers, turn the mattress over, move a desk to the other room, etc. He spends the morning a couple times a month and does it all at one time. Works beautifully! Thanks Janice
I find myself in an interesting position being a caregiver and now needing help here and there
Good one, Janice! It's why I chose "From Both Sides Now" as those of us who are older have a perspective on life experiences that include then and now, looking at life from both sides. Putting them together is both harmony and conflict and how we resolve the latter depends on both internal and external resources - both sides now. Joni Mitchell, who wrote and sang that song is headlining a concert next month at the Hollywood Bowl in Los Angeles on October 19. She is 81.
"I think of myself as independent, but that independence requires assistance."......."they care for me while allowing me to do as much as possible before stepping in." We have to try to quiet the little voices of pride in our heads and accept that there are things we need help with now. I have to always remind myself that my boy WANTS to be needed; it is not an imposition. I just keep a list. He drops by, takes the list and gets busy. He will change the ceiling light bulb, trim the top of the vine I can't reach, replace a couple of washers, turn the mattress over, move a desk to the other room, etc. He spends the morning a couple times a month and does it all at one time. Works beautifully! Thanks Janice