Self-trust Looms Large!!
How much do you trust yourself?
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for the shout-out Janice. It means a lot.
We could write many essays on this topic! I love all the resources you shared and look forward to checking them out. The one that resonates the most with me is How To Trust Yourself More - discerning your true values, skills and what's important. From there, I would add, take baby steps. Perhaps the reason you didn't follow through in the past is that you said you would do something because you thought you should, rather than it being a guiding light for you. Or perhaps you went for broke and your plan was simply too big to fit into your life. Start with baby steps for the win!
Also, this advice is all null and void for you because it seems you have really stepped up to the plate with confidence and self trust.
I love this quote, Janice: “Self-trust is not trusting yourself to know all the answers, nor is it believing that you will always do the right things. It’s having the conviction that you will be kind and respectful to yourself regardless of the outcome of your efforts.” It is going on my fridge door today!
Your post was so profoundly important for all of us to read - especially to those of us who have lost our spouses and are doing things on our own now! Thank you so much for this information and encouragement.
I always took pride in the fact of being a strong independent person. I , too, realized how much I depended on Butch for reassurance once he was gone. You are so right. It was a turning point. What choice did we have?
Janice. Please trust yourself. You sound like an amazing rock x
Donna's post this week really resonated with me, too. Self-trust is hard. I can spend months deliberating decisions, and getting to that place of trust can take a long time.
It would be interesting to gently explore the reasons you haven't done the thing you said you wanted to. I'm sure there are valid reasons, whether logical or not, and maybe if you accept those reasons and forgive yourself for how long it's taken, it may help you get back to more self-trust.