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As family caregivers, one of our biggest problems is managing a loved one’s behavior. They can be argumentative, resistant, and defiant.

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Triggers. Difficult behavior. I am afraid for when the "shoe will be on the other foot". My mother had no behavioral problems when I was caring for her. She was always calm and sweet. Now I am thinking about myself and what kinds of behavioral problems I will present to my son when he has to be my caregiver. What will trigger me? I hate to imagine it. I am thinking I should thank him and beg his forgiveness in advance for what is to come! Ha ha ha.

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I think this must be one of the most difficult things. Sometimes it may also come down to the person's personality before they got sick, is there a thread of how they have always been (stubborn, resistant, narrow perspective) that is playing a bigger role? I'm afraid if this is the case I find it difficult to dig deep for empathy, whereas if the person was lovely and easy-going before their illness but now is struggling I think I would be able to be more receptive to their plight.

I recognize the character flaw in this argument🤣 -mine, not the other person's - and if they are sick it should not matter what came before! I think I have some work to do on myself. This is excellent info Janice, it is very helpful to consider the triggers and responses.

PS: Happy Thanksgiving from Canada!

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