The people you loved -- do you think they would want you agonizing over this? Do you think they didn't know you were doing your best?
Don't you know they wouldn't be blaming you -- don't you know they wouldn't want you suffering?
You loved them but they also loved you. You made mistakes but everyone does.
There's always a regret. There's always something you wish you had handled differently.
One of my cousins sat by her mother's bedside for two days. She went home to shower and nap and her mother died before she got home.
You do your best with what you know. And you remember the people you love, loved you and they know you weren't God and you would have saved them if you could.
My father's favorite line "No one gets out of here alive, baby."
Then he'd twinkle. "But I thought God would make an exception for me."
Thank you, Bridget, for this lovely reminder. My head understands this perfectly. The heart is a little slow to catch up. What you say makes so much sense. If I had been the one dying and my mom had been taking care of ME, I would have appreciated every little thing she did and would never have wanted her to regret anything - because we loved each other.
I lost my mom when I was 22 and I've sat and nursed loved ones while they were dying. Especially in the last seven years as everyone reaches the danger zone.
The instinct is always to keep them with you. The engrained response is if they die, I've failed them.
Maybe. Maybe not.
But they trust you to do your best and I know you did.
Make notes on what you would have done differently and share them with your family.
Today.
You forgive yourselves TODAY.
The people you loved -- do you think they would want you agonizing over this? Do you think they didn't know you were doing your best?
Don't you know they wouldn't be blaming you -- don't you know they wouldn't want you suffering?
You loved them but they also loved you. You made mistakes but everyone does.
There's always a regret. There's always something you wish you had handled differently.
One of my cousins sat by her mother's bedside for two days. She went home to shower and nap and her mother died before she got home.
You do your best with what you know. And you remember the people you love, loved you and they know you weren't God and you would have saved them if you could.
My father's favorite line "No one gets out of here alive, baby."
Then he'd twinkle. "But I thought God would make an exception for me."
You loved them. They loved you.
Thank you, Bridget, for this lovely reminder. My head understands this perfectly. The heart is a little slow to catch up. What you say makes so much sense. If I had been the one dying and my mom had been taking care of ME, I would have appreciated every little thing she did and would never have wanted her to regret anything - because we loved each other.
I've been there.
I lost my mom when I was 22 and I've sat and nursed loved ones while they were dying. Especially in the last seven years as everyone reaches the danger zone.
The instinct is always to keep them with you. The engrained response is if they die, I've failed them.
Maybe. Maybe not.
But they trust you to do your best and I know you did.
Make notes on what you would have done differently and share them with your family.