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The older I get, the more changes are occurring. Not only does my body not do what it once did, but the beliefs I held for years no longer seem to apply; the losses are more than I imagined, and the world isn’t the one I knew. Time to rethink!

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I think you are very good at embracing change. You inspire me x

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I just cannot imagine you needing to change a thing, Janice. You have it together more than any person I know. You are a model for us all!

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Oh Sharron, Thank you so much. The inner struggles and doubts that haunt don't always show through, I guess.

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These are all excellent points, Janice...real food for thought as we're aging and changing. Evolving and adapting to those changes helps us find more peace in our lives.

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Hi, I couldn't agree more! For me, it's about choosing who I want to be given the changes in around and within me - which in turn will bring that peace.

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Wow, this is something to contemplate! What stops me from changing? I am going to need to do a deep dive into the questions you pose. Every point you make also sits on my list. Thanks for bringing this to my attention Janice.

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Hi Donna, I am finding it is an important question to be asking myself.

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You nailed this article. I imagined all the changes to happen way off in the future. That future is present and not accounted for. I no longer know where I stand. My solid ground is constantly shifting. This week I need to sit and write what's most important to me to keep that comes along with the changes. Not easy. I don't remember life EVER being like this in the past, even during puberty—and that was nothing to dwell on. Recently, I had the opportunity (or the curse) to run into friends from high school. That chance meeting brought back memories I've tried to forget for 50 years. After hashing those out a bit, I decided to sit down and get a grip now, no more putting it off. Where once before I had a lifetime to learn and change, now I do not. Great article.

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So, true. It seems that everything I believed in and counted on no longer applies. This is a new world and it feels like I need a new game plan to participate and then there is the brick wall of age - not the number but the changes in my body that tend to limit me. Big plans but little cooperation at times.

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“The older I get, the more changes are occurring. Not only does my body not do what it once did, but the beliefs I held for years no longer seem to apply; the losses are more than I imagined, and the world isn’t the one I knew.”

I can relate to that, but after the death of my wife of 51 years, leaving me a senior orphan, my question now often is, “What’s the point?”

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Hi Jonathan,

That's a question I often ask as well. Dan and I were married for 63 years before he died four years ago. We met when we were twelve - he was the boy down the street. I do have family which is a definite plus and the writing has given me a purpose. But I've had to rebuild my life . . and a part of me - of that life remains missing.

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I accept and embrace the truism that change is a constant of existence. Some change I like, some I dislike. But such is life. Railing against change will generally not change anything.

I choose to focus on the beneficial aspects of change. It allows me to let go of things I no longer need, and have new adventures and meet new people.

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I like it - focusing on the beneficial accepts of the change. I have certainly acquired new skills and insights through out the changes.

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❤️ and labracadabrador!

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