When the computer doesn’t work, and my first thought is, “I don’t know what to do,” - worries rise to the surface. However, if that first thought is, “I don’t know what to do - yet,” my perspective changes and options come to mind. One word makes a difference.
Excellent advice, Janice! Two thumbs up! Thanks. Whenever get encouraging feedback on my writing on Substack, I print it out and post it on my fridge. I know that sounds crazy, but whenever my self-talk is running negative or defeated, I stop and read them. It does help.
I recall listening to a podcast where the speaker said whatever we think we can do we can usually do 40% more! I have held that little statistic in my mind occasionally when I am talking myself down. Thanks for these great reminders Janice.
Thank you. I've been tackling a big editing project and have been trying to replace my doubts about whether it is too much for me with a can do attitude. Your article today reinforced the value of confronting one's limiting beliefs.
I really need this advice, thank you, Janice! I thought of something Monica Lewinsky said, she said that someone had advised her that whenever she thought of saying something negative about herself, to instead think of saying the same critical words to another person. Monica said she was horrified at the idea of saying the negative, critical things she says to her self, to another person. 😘
Great self-compassionate article, Janice! May I add that you can imagine the voice of your best friend or someone close who knows you well, defending you. Acknowledging the 'opinion' and then refuting it. Or shoving it out the door. ;-) We're so easily hooked on old baggage stories. Finding ways to unhook takes time. BIG empathetic hug
Thank you for writing about this topic. Negative self-talk prevents me from doing what I've wanted to do my whole life: writing. I'm constantly criticizing what I write so that the process becomes so painful that I stop. Reading your article now after I've made a decision to change this bad habit is a bit of synchronicity, a word created by Carl Jung to mean meaningful coincidence. I love the idea of adding "yet" and "and" to my self-talk. Thanks again!!!
When the computer doesn’t work, and my first thought is, “I don’t know what to do,” - worries rise to the surface. However, if that first thought is, “I don’t know what to do - yet,” my perspective changes and options come to mind. One word makes a difference.
Great ideas for re-framing our negative words: yet, and, experiment. Thanks, Janice!
Excellent advice, Janice! Two thumbs up! Thanks. Whenever get encouraging feedback on my writing on Substack, I print it out and post it on my fridge. I know that sounds crazy, but whenever my self-talk is running negative or defeated, I stop and read them. It does help.
I recall listening to a podcast where the speaker said whatever we think we can do we can usually do 40% more! I have held that little statistic in my mind occasionally when I am talking myself down. Thanks for these great reminders Janice.
Thank you. I've been tackling a big editing project and have been trying to replace my doubts about whether it is too much for me with a can do attitude. Your article today reinforced the value of confronting one's limiting beliefs.
I really need this advice, thank you, Janice! I thought of something Monica Lewinsky said, she said that someone had advised her that whenever she thought of saying something negative about herself, to instead think of saying the same critical words to another person. Monica said she was horrified at the idea of saying the negative, critical things she says to her self, to another person. 😘
Great self-compassionate article, Janice! May I add that you can imagine the voice of your best friend or someone close who knows you well, defending you. Acknowledging the 'opinion' and then refuting it. Or shoving it out the door. ;-) We're so easily hooked on old baggage stories. Finding ways to unhook takes time. BIG empathetic hug
Thank you for writing about this topic. Negative self-talk prevents me from doing what I've wanted to do my whole life: writing. I'm constantly criticizing what I write so that the process becomes so painful that I stop. Reading your article now after I've made a decision to change this bad habit is a bit of synchronicity, a word created by Carl Jung to mean meaningful coincidence. I love the idea of adding "yet" and "and" to my self-talk. Thanks again!!!